I’ve spent one too many Valentine’s Days wishing, hoping, thinking, and praying for something that never happened so as part of a sponsored post with #CollectiveBias on behalf of their client, I’m taking things into my own hands and treating The Workaholic to a festival of his 5 senses for a Valentine’s Day #KYdatenight.
Don’t tell me I’m the only one who sits around waiting for her significant other to do something super amazing and “Featured on The Today Show” worthy each Valentine’s Day. The truth is, I really loathe Valentine’s Day. I can’t remember in all of history a good Valentine’s Day. I was single for many of them, and as we all know, Valentine’s Day is otherwise known as “Singles Awareness Day”. Even the ones I’ve had with The Workaholic have been riddled with disappointment. Like our first Valentine’s Day when we went to Maggiano’s. And I was in my first trimester of pregnancy. And he hadn’t made a reservation. On Valentine’s Day.
Since then I think he’s worked each Valentine’s Day and we’ve celebrated on a different day, if at all. Each year, I’m disappointed. No sparkling diamonds, no elaborately planned out date night, no romantic scavenger hunts. All The Workaholic gets me each year for Valentine’s Day is a Scottish Sausage to prove his love and devotion. Like I don’t get that every day. Or nearly every day.
Since this is the year that I’m going to make things happen, I’m not going to sit around and be a spectator on Valentine’s Day. I’m taking matters into my own hands and treating my man to a Valentine’s Day Date that he won’t soon forget.
The more I thought about it, the more it just made sense to me to do this anyways. Why should the man always be the one tasked with coming up with a romantic date for Valentine’s Day? A relationship works best when both people are paddling in the same direction, right? So I removed the pressure of The Workaholic having to impress me for Valentine’s Day by creating these little Valentine’s Day Printables. I slipped a little note in his jacket pocket one day before he left for work. I wanted him to find it while he was already at work. The thought of him finding it on a busy day and creating a momentary pause and smile, made me light up.
Then I planned our evening out, in addition to a few little gifts to give him along the way that will keep the energy going. The Workaholic and I have been married for just under 5 years now, and while we’re still pretty “active”, it does take work to stay that way. I have a bit of a reputation as a flirt, but after a while you forget to flirt with your spouse. The key to a successful, fun date is to keep that energy rolling with some suggestive glances, a naughty whisper in his ear, or a soft touch on your partner’s favorite body part. Is it their ear? Arm? Butt? Don’t be incredibly obvious about it, a soft graze with your hand should be enough to pique your partner’s interest.
To keep that energy rolling, I created these printables for you to use on gifts of your choice to give to your significant other from the start of your date, all the way to the end.
The first gift should be given early on in the day on the day of your date night. It should be something for your spouse to wear, and perhaps a little something for you too. I got The Workaholic a pretty fuchsia tie and myself a matching tank top to wear with a lacy black pencil skirt that I already have. He was really excited to get the new, bright tie, and my girly matchy-matchy fantasies can be fulfilled without looking like we’re 83 visiting Hawaii for the first time.
I always try to do my hair and makeup in a way that The Workaholic loves, that I don’t do often. Seeing your significant other’s reaction to your extra care is fun and really sets the tone for an exciting date night – ifyaknowhaddimean.
The second gift should be something sweet and edible. Think standard Valentine’s Day fare, or your spouse’s favorite candy. The Workaholic loves Twizzlers, which I refuse to purchase, so I opted for some dark chocolate and a bottle of red wine. This will go in the car with us when we leave for our dinner date and I will have him open it before we pull out of the driveway. The suggestive little card creates an expectation for the rest of the evening that your man can start dreaming about before the date really kicks off.
If you’re not the type of person with an inherently dirty mind (like yours truly), try to think back to your first date with your spouse. What made the electricity so strong between the two of you? I realize not all people are born flirts, and that’s fine! But really think hard about how you attracted your spouse to you in the first place and try to recreate some of those awkwardly fun moments during dinner. There’s nothing like those first few months of dating someone, all full of butterflies and excited energy. You can recreate that energy if you try.
One way to get you started, is to give your third gift when dinner is done and you are waiting on your dessert (or your bill if you’re not dessert people). This one is sure to illicit a ton of fun from the time it is opened until the moment you get home.
OH yeah, that’s what I’m talking about. You don’t have to know how to flirt well to excite your partner. Once you give them a box of K-Y Yours+Mine, your loved one knows exactly where he’s headed for the night. This is one of our favorite personal lubricants because it takes intimacy to the next level without having to step too far outside of your comfort zone.
In any event, if you print these little package tags off and create a Valentine’s Day Date Night for your man, I guarantee you it will be the best Valentine’s Day Date that you’ve ever had, and all because you took matters into your own hands. Just make sure setting up the date isn’t the only think you take into your own hands that night, Mmmmmkay?