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Do you smell that? *sniffsniff* Do things smell a little stale in here, or is that just my relationship?
Don’t lie, you know you’ve been there – you love your spouse but you’ve just kind of become more roommates than the steamy partners that you were when you were newlyweds. Every day becomes about going through the motions of getting the kids to school, going to work, coming home, having dinner, bathing the kids, putting them to bed, wash, rinse, repeat.
If you’re anything like us, your man finds intimacy significantly more enticing after a day spent serving everyone but yourself than you do. You probably want to unwind with a good book, your favorite television show, or a guilty pleasure magazine before hitting the pillow like a sack of bricks and sawing some serious logs.
The best is when we go on a date and the whole time we’re supping, drinking, and making merry, we are talking about how we’re just going to tear one another apart when we get home. Yeah, no. It never happens that way. Please tell me we’re not the only ones home and in bed – on opposite ends of the bed no less – snoring away by 10pm.
When did we get so boring? When did we start serving life up with a side of vanilla? You guys, this is LAME.
I started thinking back on some of our favorite dates and how I could spice things up a bit, because goodness knows, I need some cayenne on that vanilla soft serve I’ve been servin’ up. When we lived in Raleigh, we went on dates quite often, and we had some really amazing dates. I’m a sucker for live music and Kyle loves farm to table food, so two of my favorite dates are when we went to see my favorite band in concert, and when we went to see our favorite solo artist in concert. The solo artist concert was particularly awesome because we went to a local burger joint beforehand and danced to The singer’s smooth voice.
Kyle is so easy to please, like ridiculously easy. Basically it goes like this: Wake up in the morning, stretch a little before flopping out of bed, scratch my butt, walk by Kyle, raise the flag. It’s that easy. Morning breath, rat’s nest hair, and brain fog; I’m dead sexy, y’all!
You know, as a woman, it take me just a little longer to get excited about things. For me it’s more like this: wake up in the morning, kiss my forehead, make me breakfast, serve me coffee, take care of the children while I get myself ready for the day, tell me I’m beautiful, hold my hand and caress my waist when we are out in public, tell me I’m beautiful, take me out to lunch, gaze lovingly into my eyes and tell me gently that I have something stuck between my two front teeth, laugh when I tell a stupid joke, help me up when I trip over the door jam leaving the lunch restaurant, tell me I’m beautiful even with a bloody nose, hold my hand, take me home and tell me you just want to lay with me and stare into my gorgeous grey eyes, let me kiss you, take me to second base, aaaannnnnnd – HOME RUN!
Life. It just gets all kinds of in the way, doesn’t it?
So how DO you keep things spiced up in your relationship when you’ve been married for longer than 5 years? How do you pull out all the stops for your honey?
There is a general formula that works for all relationships, no matter what your interests are, no matter what your budget is. It looks something like this:
What does the perfect date look like for you? For Kyle, it would be Chinese food (gluten free, of course), followed by fishing, lots of touch (hugs, high fives, quick squeezes), without spending a lot of money. It would likely end with cuddling on the sofa while watching a movie. I don’t really have to spell out how the finale would look, I do, however; have to mention that it would include some of the electric K-Y® YOURS+MINE.
For me, it would be a farm to table restaurant with pork belly and fancy martinis, a concert, lots of touch (holding hands, forehead kisses, gentle caresses), and probably a bit more of a budget buster. It would end with a half gallon of shared ice cream and a bit of fun in the bedroom with K-Y® YOURS+MINE.
You don’t have to spend a ton of money to have a great time. I love slow dancing out under the stars or in the rain, cooking a meal together at home is inexpensive, and sharing a bottle of wine. Giving one another massages, making sure to make eye contact, and connecting on an emotional level is all incredibly important in trying to spice up your love life. The grande finale should always include K-Y® YOURS+MINE, though. It really enhances intimate time, and when you meet in the middle so-to-speak, it really takes things to a new level. Imagine the mountains you could move when you and your spouse both feel like super heros!
Speaking of not having to spend a ton of money, there is a super great coupon for a date night deal that comes on the K-Y® YOURS+MINE box. The $50 Value includes 2 free gourmet meals delivered right to your door for an intimate night of cooking together from peachdish.com, and $5 Vudu movie credit for you to stream right at home. It’s perfect for a date night in!
When life gets the better of you, it’s important to remember to connect on a basic, human level. Don’t let comfort get the best of your relationship, keep adding spice by remembering what your spouse likes and planning a date that will knock their socks off. Who knows? Your socks might be the ones that wind up being blown off.
For more date night ideas, check out K-Y.com and then check this AWESOME group of gals discussing different ways they put the Date Night Formula into practice to create the perfect date night for their husbands: