The Stinky absolutely loves babies. When he sees a baby when we’re out and about, he runs over to it, yelling “BAYBEEEE! BAYBEEEE!” Then he squats down and starts having a conversation with the baby. He nods his head and raises his eyebrows like he’s trying to entice them to climb up to the top of the slide with him. If I can’t get to him first, he smothers them with bear hugs and kisses their noses.
He’s the sweetest little boy ever.
At home, he loves to play with The Muffin’s baby dolls but she is extremely territorial where her babies are concerned, and naturally, The Stinky doesn’t want to play with the babies that The Muffin doesn’t like, he wants to play with the babies that she LOVES. Imagine the screaming, pushing, punching, and crying that goes on in my house on a regular basis.
I thought that perhaps I would let The Stinky play with the blue monster that he sleeps with, outside of the crib and that maybe it would satiate his desire for a baby doll.
He’s not a stupid Stinky! He knows what he wants, and what he wants is a baby doll to call his own!
I told The Workaholic today that I was going to get The Stinky a Boy Baby Doll as a Christmas present and he told me, “NO you’re NOT! He’s a BOY!”
I was aghast!
Really?! Because he’s a BOY? But The Workaholic wants The Muffin to learn all about sports instead of doing ballet because it’s cool to have a girl who’s into sports! NOTE: If I have anything to do with it, she’ll LOVE sports AND ballet. So far, so good.
So why the double standard?
It’s SUPER cool to have a boy who is sensitive, caring, nurturing, and well-rounded. Just like it’s super cool to have a girl who is the same. Or not the same.
I fully believe our children will be who they were born to be whether you like it or not.
I just couldn’t believe the words that were coming out of my husband’s mouth! ALL THIS coming from the man whose favorite movies growing up were Flipper and The Little Mermaid, and whose favorite song was “Butterfly Kisses”. C’mon! He’s sensitive – let our baby boy be sensitive too!
So to show him that he was being ridiculous, I posted this status on The Dirty Floor Diaries Facebook page:
My sole reason for posting was to get some feedback from other parents so that I could show The Workaholic that it’s completely normal.
,Anyways, someone immediately told me I was archaic for even posting such a thing.
I wasn’t asking if it’s OK for boy to play with baby dolls. OF COURSE it’s OK for boys to play with baby dolls! I was simply asking for opinions on it in general because I (thought) I would get a really positive response on it. SO far, most people commenting are in agreement with me that it’s super OK to let boys play with baby dolls. Others are, I think, misinterpreting the question.
I surfed the interwebs this afternoon, wondering which baby doll I should get for The Stinky. There are SO MANY baby dolls. I even have a hard time picking out dolls for The Muffin! I wanted to get him a doll that he could differentiate from his sister’s as his very own. She doesn’t have any boy dolls, and because The Stinky is a boy, I figured it would be a good idea to get him a boy doll. It will be his doll, he won’t have to (though he probably will) share it, and he will be able to easily find it in the slew of dolls that litter our home. I was a little bummed out that Googling “Baby Dolls for Boys” didn’t really bring up a whole lot. I guess it doesn’t really matter. A doll is a doll, right? Eh, I guess so. But it would be super nice if doll companies would start tagging their boy dolls with “baby dolls for boys”, that way those of us who wonder too much about “getting it right” don’t have to play guess-who on the internet. When I searched Amazon for a doll and clicked “Boy” on the left sidebar, it didn’t bring up a single baby doll, only boy blankets and stuffies. I couldn’t believe it! Anywho….
After much deliberation, I decided on this doll
He’s from the North American Bear Company. Isn’t he PWECIOUS? I love that he’s soft and cuddly. I figure this will be a perfect first doll for my baby boy. If he ever wants a more life-like doll, I’d be happy to accommodate, but for now, my sweet little man can practice being a nurturing, loving, sweet daddy to his new baby doll.
Do you think this will help me regain some sanity?